HA! They get younger and younger! However, that’s the thing I think many parents do not recognize…teen and adolescent behavior is a direct reflection of early childhood rearing. I hear so many of my students say,
“My mama can’t tell me what to do!”
“I drink with my mama.”
“I hit my mama.”
“I ain’t never had no spanking.”
“My mama ain’t never beat me.”
“My mama beat me with (fill in the blank)”
…and I teach high school…
“Little” eight-year-old Deshawn Williams got into a physical altercation with another classmate over a box of crayons…apparently chairs became projectile objects, classmates were hit, and the teacher was struck in the face when he did not get what he wanted. Deshawn ended up in the back of a police car, while wearing the latest fashion the penal system had to offer – handcuffs!
The thing I find most disturbing about this story is what Granny Dorothy had to say about her grandson’s behavior:
- “He gets very upset and he loves to hit,”
- “If he was overpowering her that much, I feel like she shouldn’t be in that line of work,”
- “If she can’t deal with him, put him in someone else’s classroom. If it’s a male, whatever, and let them restrain him,”
And obviously, we really are NOT in Kansas anymore, Dorothy!
I wonder if Granny D is familiar with the other “D” word?
Discipline! Whatever happened to good old-fashioned discipline? Permissiveness (sorry Dr. Spockers) and child abuse are obviously NOT what I’m suggesting because the two are so far from discipline. It is evident, from the behavior of my students, that their parents never provided discipline. Perhaps some of their parents abused them…slapped them around and inducted them into the world of hard knocks…perhaps their parents were absentee…either way, this type of faulty parenting is like a medieval scourge descending upon our society! Soon enough we will be living a rendition of Lord of the Flies…no adults and every child for himself.
Alas! There is something else that is bothering me about this particular case in light of all the newly surfaced stories of juvenile anarchy…this Deshawn kid attends an “exceptional school,” which means that his behavior could be a tad bit excusable if there are considerable emotional disabilities involved.
- Why was he arrested and not the kid who attacked Jolita Berry or the kid who attacked Felecia Williams?
- Should allowances be made for Deshawn Williams if he is truly emotionally disturbed?
- Do parents realize how many Emotionally and Behaviorally Disturbed (EBD) students are mainstreamed into the regular education classroom with their student due to No Child Left Behind?
- Do parents realize that the regular ed. teacher is not fully equipped to handle the outbreaks of these students…and therefore, instruction suffers because the regular ed. teacher spends 80% of valuable instruction time “putting out fires?”
- Do parents realize that the special education staff is often times over-worked, and are not always going to be present in a student’s class to offer assistance (assistance they are not highly qualified in)?
Oh my…I think I’m airing all the dirty laundry…and boy is it dirty…