38 – She’s Only Seventeen…

18 Dec

Okay…okay…I realize I just showed my age (along with revealing the fact that I once listened to Winger). “Her daddy says she too young, but she’s old enough for me.” (That was for those of you who know the song)…LOL!

But on a more serious note…

I have to tell you about this student of mine…she’s seventeen, a senior.  BOTH of her parents died when she was at an early age, and she now lives with her older brother and his girlfriend.  From what I have gathered…the brother is not extremely stable himself because my student has no personal doctor, medical insurance (no Medicade yet), or personal transportation.

She came in to first period this morning, limping…acting as though it really pained her to walk. After everyone got settled, I asked her if she felt okay. She said she did, but another student said, “No Ms. Friendly! She just left the hospital this morning at 4 a.m. and she should go home!”

The “sick” student protested and said she felt fine. I told her, after looking over her release papers, that I wanted to speak to her in the hallway. I was alarmed because it seemed as though she had a miscarriage. I saw the words “pregnancy terminated by vacuum” written in her diagnosis. My heart immediately went out to her.  She said that she didn’t even know that she was pregnant. She also said that the fetus died while inside of her…she was THREE months pregnant.

She went on to explain to me that she has only had sex twice in her life, and doesn’t see how all those other girls run around doing it without getting “caught.”  She said she had questions when the nurse was talking to her, but her brother was in the room and she didn’t feel she could ask…She was concerned about internal infection, seeing as how the fetus was deceased when born.  I urged her to find a gynecologist.  She said that she would as soon as her brother applied for her Medicaid.

I tried to answer her questions to the best of my ability as well as give her a comforting hug. I felt so sad for her. These kids deal with so much! I just wish that I could save all of them!

Life is just so delicate…


Posted by on December 18, 2009 in Uncategorized


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2 responses to “38 – She’s Only Seventeen…

  1. theerdoctor

    December 27, 2009 at 3:00 pm

    Advise this girl, or do it yourself, to call a nearby emergency room, or one that is at least reasonably sized. Ask to speak with a social worker. Often they will arrange that because they don’t really want patients to come in who don’t need medical help. The social worker can tell her how to apply for Medicaid. By the way, they may have already done that, because pregnant girls/women can virtually automatically get Medicaid, and the hospital may have applied on an emergency basis on her behalf, so they would get paid for helping her.

    • msfriendly

      December 27, 2009 at 3:12 pm

      @erdoctor – Thank you so much! I will definitely follow up with her as soon as we return to school. Your advice is much appreciated 🙂


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