35-Discipline Starts at Home!

27 Mar


I’m teaching at a new school…but I’m experiencing the same problems. The same apathetic attitudes, unruly teens with no direction (Read: Lord of the Flies), and poor access to educational supplies exist at this school. Just minutes ago, I was verbally attacked by one student for saying that I heard music being played in an area of the room that she happened to be sitting in. I was not directly speaking to that student, however, she responds with, “She don’t hear no music from over here.”

Folks, this is one of my pet peeves, I do not need a pissy-ass teenager telling me what I do or do not hear! I have the hearing of a dog! Unfortunately, I hear most of everything my students say (the “private” things they say to one another especially). Again, addressing the GENERAL vicinity from which the noise came from, I said, “I am aware of what I hear. I do not need someone else telling me what I did or did not hear so, turn it off!” So the Bad Seed responds with, “Just cuz you come in here with a bad attitude everyday don’t mean nothing. I’m sick of all you stupid ass teachers.” My collaborative teacher tells Bad Seed, “That’s enough. Step outside.” Bad Seed replies, “No. I don’t need to go outside.” “Yes you do,” I responded. “I’m straight,” she replies. “No,” I said, “You need to go.”

Now she’s all puffed up and even more pissy (if that’s possible). “I don’t give a shit.” I laugh and say, “Neither do I because the more you say the more you incriminate yourself. I’ve a write-up with your name on.” “Fine,” she responds, “I don’t give a fuck about you. Make sure you put that on the write-up.” …This from an eighteen-year-old girl who is in my 11th Grade Literature class (with sixteen-year-olds) who throws shoes at her peers and curses her teachers out. I am the one with the bad attitude? HA!

Her parents are afraid of her temper. They allow her to do whatever she wants…her father once said to me, “Sometimes she has a bad temper, but you just have to wait it out and let her come around.” What a cop out! She was never disciplined! In my eyes, that’s child abuse…she has no real-world skills! If she goes off on a boss the same way she just did to me, she would lose her job! I would never hire her. She’s a ticking time bomb. She is not used to being held accountable for following rules…that’s the REAL reason why she thinks I “have a bad attitude.” I don’t have a bad attitude, I just expect DISCIPLINED students, and if they are unfamiliar with what DISCIPLINE looks like…I “gently” remind them. While I respect ALL of my students as individuals, I will not allow them to over-step their boundaries without calling it to their attention. I believe that one of the dire issues, widely affecting education and achievement gaps, is the lack of discipline among young adults. All I have to say is that discipline STARTS AT HOME!


Posted by on March 27, 2009 in Uncategorized


4 responses to “35-Discipline Starts at Home!

  1. Sarah

    March 30, 2009 at 1:30 pm

    Never let a student, parent, or administrator diminish the expecatations you have in your classroom! You set them–you uphold them! Hang in there! Fight the good fight!

  2. jp

    April 16, 2009 at 1:57 pm

    amen sistah!
    I dunno how many times a day I say
    “that child needs a good dose of momma’s backhand”

    • shockedandawed

      May 27, 2009 at 11:47 am

      One of the great disappointments in teaching is the day you realize that some students really can’t be helped. I’ve now started writing down the most outrageous comments/exchanges I have with my students. One day I think I’ll write a book.

      • msfriendly

        May 27, 2009 at 3:30 pm

        Thank you all for your support! I plan on posting a follow-up of this year…I’m touched that you all are still reading.

        Shockedandawed – We need more teachers telling the REAL deal in order for the community to “get it!” I’m so sick of those pansy, candy-ass teacher’s books written by Barney. Teaching is not a fairy tale anymore. There are more and more, once suburban neighborhoods, being flooded with urbanites…which means more and more teaching styles/curriculum/discipline methods will be affected with those “street values.” Write your book! Good luck! I am working on my book now 🙂


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